Many times an elderly family member might wish to have more visits from family and friends. But that can sometimes be difficult to coordinate, especially if friends and family aren’t sure what to expect.
Set up a Schedule
Schedules get a bad reputation. They can feel restricting, but that’s not how it has to be. Set up a group calendar where you block out time in which your senior is open for receiving guests. You don’t have to label time that she’s unavailable as anything other than “Unavailable.” This helps to preserve your senior’s privacy, while also allowing friends and family to spot times they might be able to visit.
Be Open about Limitations and Changes
If someone hasn’t visited your aging family member in a while, she may have experienced health changes that limit her abilities. Being open and educating family and friends about these limitations can help them know what to expect before the visit.
Offer Ideas for Visits
Sometimes people avoid visiting because they don’t know what to say or they’re not sure what to do. Offer some suggestions for visits. Your senior may enjoy specific activities or even simply watching a favorite show or movie with someone she loves. Having ideas ready can help to allay some fears on the part of potential visitors.
Remind Them How Much Your Aging Adult Enjoys Visits
If people realized just how much their visit means to your senior, they might make it a point to visit more often. It’s important to note here that you’re not using this as a tool for guilt. Instead, try writing a quick “thank you” note after someone visits and dropping it in the mail. It doesn’t need to be elaborate, but can simply point out how great the visit was.
Ensure That Help Is Available
Because of their own fears or perhaps due to feeling unprepared for helping your senior during a visit, some friends and family might stay away. This is a great time to have elder care providers on hand who can step in to help your senior.
Remember that not everyone feels comfortable visiting, especially if your aging adult has significant health problems. You may have to respect those limitations.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Lawrenceville, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.
Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.
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