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How to Talk to Your Parent about the Need for Elder Care

Elder Care in Princeton Junction NJ

Elder Care in Princeton Junction NJYou may have noticed that your aging parent is having more difficulty handling their daily personal tasks than they did before. Your parent may no longer drive and you know that they want to be able to get out and do more, but you do not have the time in your schedule to always be there to handle this for them. Your loved one may have just received a diagnosis of a condition that you know will require additional care. Whatever the reason that you are considering elder care for your parent, having an open and honest conversation with them about this need and how you can resolve it is one of the most important things that you can do for them as their family caregiver.

Use these tips to help you talk to your parent about their need for elder care:

• Take notes first. This is not a conversation that you should just throw yourself into. That can lead to confusion, frustration, and hurt feelings. This causes an unproductive conversation that could strain your relationship with your elderly parent and keep them from getting the care and support that they need. To keep this from happening, take some time to write down what it is that you want to say. This will clarify your thoughts and give you greater confidence that you will make the most of this conversation.

• Go into it with confidence. You are making a decision that you know is the best thing for your elderly parent. As their family caregiver you want them to be as healthy, happy, strong, and safe as possible, and having an elderly home care services provider will help them achieve this. Even though this conversation is intimidating, go into it knowing that you are doing what is right for your loved one.

• Do not confront. Avoid being aggressive confrontational, or accusatory when you are talking to your aging loved one. This is something that you want to do for them because you want them to be healthy, strong, and happy, not because of anything “wrong”. Instead, go into this conversation in a loving, nurturing, and compassionate way that shows your parent that you want them to have the highest quality of life possible.

• Express your vision. Do not just tell your parent that you think that elder care would be good for them. Be ready with examples and reasons that this type of care would improve their lives. Tell them what you have noticed that worries you and how you believe that an elderly home care services provider could help them to resolve these issues. Truly seeing what it is “in it” for them will help your parent to feel more willing to go along with this change.

• Give them time to talk. This situation is not truly about you. It impacts your time and effort and the care that you give, but in the end it is about your aging parent. Give them a chance to talk about how they perceive the situation, what they are feeling, and what they think about the care provider. Be willing to address their emotions in a caring and supportive way, and to answer their questions so that they can work through this transition in a beneficial way.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Princeton Junction, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.

Dr. Shelly Chinkes, DPM

Administrator, Mercer/Burlington Division at Care Street Home Care
Dr. Shelly Chinkes, DPM, Care Street’s able administrator has more than 30 years of clinical experience in private practice and Skilled Nursing settings, with specific experience in clinical case management in Gerontology.

Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.

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