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Tips for Talking to Your Elderly Loved One about Incontinence

Elder Care in Princeton NJ

Elder Care in Princeton NJAs a family caregiver you are likely to encounter a variety of challenging situations. Approaching these with confidence and proper preparation can help you to give them the care that they need and deserve. One of the most challenging of these situations may be incontinence. This loss of urinary control can occur for a wide variety of reasons and create a difficult situation for your aging loved one and for yourself as their caregiver. Taking the time to talk to them honestly and openly about this situation can make the situation smoother and less stressful for both of you, and allow you to give your parent the type of care that is right for them.

Use these tips to help you talk to your elderly loved one about incontinence:

• Reassure them that they are not alone. Many people who suffer from incontinence feel like they are alone in their struggle. Reassure your parent that this is far from the case. Approximately 25 million people throughout the United States are currently suffering from this condition, with people over the age of 50 being at the highest risk.

• Help them to identify the cause. Work with your senior and their doctor to identify the cause behind their incontinence. This is important because it helps to bring their struggle into context, helping the eliminate the feeling that they are just “getting old” or that their body is failing them. It also allows the doctor to find the approach to treatment and management that is right for them.

• Be respectful. Keep in mind that this is a very personal problem and one that can be extremely emotionally difficult for your parent. Be honest and open with them throughout the conversation, but also be respectful and keep their dignity as your top priority. Try not to make the situation too big of a deal, but also do not make light of it. This is a serious issue and something that will make a tremendous impact on your parent’s daily functioning, but it does not have to be something that takes away their quality of life. Show that you are there for them and will be supportive as they find the ways to deal with it that are right for them.

If you have noticed that your aging parent has been dealing with challenges and limitations that make it more difficult for them to handle living independently, or you simply feel that they could enjoy a higher quality of life with additional care and support, now may be the ideal time for you to consider starting elder care for them. An elderly home care services provider can evaluate your aging loved one’s individual needs and create a highly personalized approach to care, support, assistance, and encouragement that helps them to live a fulfilling lifestyle and the highest quality of life possible as they age in place. This type of care is not just meaningful and beneficial for the oldest of seniors or those who are dealing with extensive needs and challenges. Instead, even those with mild or moderate needs can benefit from the additional support of an elderly home care services as they have the opportunity to enjoy more independence, activity, and fulfillment. When it comes to helping your loved one cope with potentially sensitive and challenging issues such as incontinence, this care provider can offer compassionate, nurturing, and respectful support and care that helps them to manage their issues effectively while still enjoying the lifestyle that they deserve. As their family caregiver this can give you confidence that your parent is able to have the highest quality of life and stay safe, comfortable, healthy, and happy throughout their later years.


If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Princeton, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.

Dr. Shelly Chinkes, DPM

Administrator, Mercer/Burlington Division at Care Street Home Care
Dr. Shelly Chinkes, DPM, Care Street’s able administrator has more than 30 years of clinical experience in private practice and Skilled Nursing settings, with specific experience in clinical case management in Gerontology.

Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.