Now that you’re taking care of your mom, you also have your own household to manage. You have children at home, a job to keep up with, and normal chores. For many women, family caregiving becomes too stressful and impacts their own health.
According to a study released by the Family Caregiver Alliance, family caregivers are less likely to keep up with their own medical appointments and screenings because most of their time is spent balancing work responsibilities and care. One out of four female caregivers has a health issue that results from their caregiving. Use these tips to balance all of your existing and new responsibilities.
Talk to Your Boss
Talk to your boss about the situation you’re facing. Not every boss will be understanding, but your boss may offer to let you reduce your work hours or work from home to save time on your daily commute. If you work full-time, you may qualify for the Family Medical Leave Act that secures your job while you take care of your mom.
Prioritize the Must-Do Tasks From the Not-as-Necessary Ones
Things your mom needs every day are clean clothes, nutritious meals, and any prescribed medications. Focus on those first. If the floor doesn’t get vacuumed one day or your mom doesn’t go for a walk, it’s not the end of the world. Don’t feel guilty for passing over less important tasks during the week. It’s more important to make sure your mom gets to her appointments, takes a shower and gets dressed, eats three meals, and takes her medications.
Leave Room for “Me Time”
Always make sure you’re leaving an hour of the day where you have time to yourself. Find a room where you feel relaxed and comfortable and ask others to stay out for the next hour. Bring a book and a cup of tea, your art supplies, or whatever helps you relax. Spend the entire hour focusing only on yourself.
Don’t Feel Like You Have to Do it Alone
Don’t try to do it all. If you’re stressed out, you’re not going to give your mom the best possible care. Pick up the phone and call a home care agency. You need to hire a caregiver to cover some of the care your mom needs. Even if you’re only bringing in home care services a few days a week, those hours are vital to having time to take care of yourself.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care in Hamilton, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.
Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.
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