Aggressive behavior from your senior family member can be frightening and dangerous for you to deal with as her caregiver. Finding ways to manage the situation carefully can help you to defuse the situation when it starts to get heated.
Stay as Calm as Possible
When faced with aggressive behavior from your elderly family member, returning the favor is not going to serve the situation well. What you need to learn to do is to remain as calm as you possibly can, hopefully inspiring your aging adult to calm down as well. You might need to learn techniques such as deep breathing to remain calm. Meditation can also help you.
Validate and Agree, if Possible
Validating your elderly family member’s feelings means that you’re acknowledging that the feelings are real and valid. So when your senior is frustrated, confirm that is a valid feeling in the situation. If you can, go ahead and agree with your senior and keep your tone positive.
Give Her an Alternative
Look for alternatives that you can give to your elderly family member to help her manage the aggressive behavior on her own. This might be a squeeze toy that she can take anger out on or a punching bag that she can hit. The alternative that you offer needs to be something that will help her to release her feelings without causing herself any harm.
Avoid Confrontation and Try to Understand Why There Is Aggression
If you can, try to look deeper past the aggressive behavior and try to work out why your elderly family member is feeling the way that she is feeling. Doing so can help you to keep confrontations with her to a minimum when she’s already feeling upset.
Get Help for Yourself
Situations like this can be common for some aging adults, which is very difficult for you as a caregiver. Be sure to take time for yourself, either by engaging home care providers to take over for you or by having other family members spend time with your aging adult.
If you can learn the triggers for your elderly family member’s aggressive behavior, you might be able to help avoid them.
If you or an aging loved one are considering homecare in Hamilton, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.
Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.
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