You do everything that you can to be the best caregiver possible, but there are still some times when you might find yourself overwhelmed and stressed to the max. Figuring out how to deal with the emotions that caregiving brings up is only one part of managing your self-care plan.
Write Down What You’re Feeling
When you let feelings just roll around in your head, they can tend to grow larger and feed each other. Negative feelings are particularly prone to this. If you’re compounding the problem by telling yourself that these feelings are bad or wrong, that’s only going to make them worse. Writing them out in a journal or even on a piece of paper can help. Still feel guilty about how you’re feeling? Destroy the piece of paper.
Talk about What You’re Feeling
For some people, writing just isn’t their thing. If that describes you, talking to someone can help. Contact a friend that you trust or join a support group. You might not feel comfortable talking about everything on your first attempt, but that’s normal. Give yourself time and space to develop the trust that you need in order to share.
Professionals Can Help
Talking to a counselor or a therapist is more intimidating for some people than talking to support group members or friends. For other people, talking to an expert who can help them work through their feelings is exactly what they need. Working with a therapist can give you tools that you can use every time you become frustrated, upset, or stressed by caregiving.
Spend Some of Your Time on You
Usually stress and strain are letting you know that you are neglecting some aspect of your own self-care. Take the time now to block out several appointments with yourself where you spend time away from everything caregiving. Your loved one doesn’t have to spend that time alone. Hire senior care providers and then spend time on yourself, guilt-free.
Everyone is different, so you’ll need to experiment with the techniques that work the best for you. Different techniques might work better at some times than at others, too.
If you or an aging loved one are considering senior care in West Trenton, NJ, please call the caring staff at Care Street Home Care. You can reach our Mercer/Burlington Division at (609) 496-5666.
Dr. Shelly, as he is fondly known, has served as an Alzheimer’s Support Group Facilitator in Mercer County and is a Certified Dementia Instructor. Knowledgeable, compassionate, and unusually devoted, his guidance is crucial in helping families understand their options and render decisions for their loved ones’ care plan. Dr. Shelly’s extensive experience, sincere and pleasant demeanor, and professional affiliations have made him a vital asset to Care Street.