An angry elderly family member can make for an unhappy caregiver, especially if there’s no real reason for your aging adult to be angry. Following some of these tips can help you to keep your senior away from those more volatile emotions more regularly.
Stay Away from Touchy Topics
You probably already know at least three or four hot button topics that are sure to set your elderly family member off. If it’s at all possible, do what you can to avoid bringing up those topics with your aging adult. Some of them might be more difficult to avoid, especially if they involve her health or other issues that you really do need to talk about.
Keep a List of Pleasant Topics Handy
Are there topics that light your elderly family member up in a good way? Start keeping a list of them. Then, if you’re blindsided by a conversation that went off the rails, you have an emergency list to which you can refer. Think about questions and prompts you can use to talk to your aging adult about hobbies, family members, or anything else that she finds to be a pleasant diversion.
Distraction Can Work
Speaking of diversions, distractions can be a great way to remove your aging adult’s attention from unhappy topics when you need to do so quickly. Start a game or suggest a walk. If you’re already out somewhere, try pointing something in the environment out to your aging adult. Look for any way to shift your senior’s attention to anything else.
Arguing Doesn’t Work
Sometimes, your senior family member might be saying and doing things that push all your buttons. It might feel as if arguing back with her can help her to understand that you have an opinion, too. The problem is that at some stages and with some health conditions, particularly dementia, arguing or even disagreeing doesn’t help at all. In fact, it can make everything so much worse. As odd as it seems, agreeing, or simply nodding and smiling, can be the right response.
Do home care providers and other family members a favor and give them a heads up about topics that are best avoided with your elderly family member.
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