How to Talk to Your Elderly Loved One about Sensitive Issues

Elder Care in New Brunswick Township NJ

At some point during your time as a family caregiver you’re going to have to talk to your loved one about something that isn’t going to be pleasant for either of you. Most commonly, it’s going to be something about a problem that you’ve noticed that may require modifying her lifestyle a bit in order to keep her safe.

Make More than One Observation Before You Talk

Say you noticed that your loved one was a little wobbly when she got up one afternoon. Instead of insisting that she use a cane or walker right then, make sure that your loved one is safe and try to make more than one observation of the situation so you have more information. For instance, her blood sugar or blood pressure may have been lower that afternoon, making her a little wobbly, but otherwise she’s able to walk perfectly well. If you had insisted on another solution right then, you and your loved one might have gotten into an argument instead.

Don’t Delay the Conversation Once You Confirm Your Hunch

On the other hand, say that you notice that the next few days have the same situation occurring. Now it’s time to let your loved one know that you need to speak with her about something important. You may want to talk to her doctor as well about potential solutions so that you can offer them to your loved one.

Be Straightforward and Don’t Treat Your Loved One Like a Child

During the talk, don’t beat around the bush. Talk openly and lovingly with your loved one about what you’ve observed. If the situation is one that needs her doctor’s input, talk about why you’re scheduling the appointment. Remember that your loved one is an adult and not a child. This can help you to avoid slipping into demands or baby talk.

Look for Ways to Help Your Loved One Keep Her Independence

Overall, the key is to help your loved one to keep her independence and still remain safe. Perhaps after further discussion, your loved one determines that she is starting to have mobility issues. It might make sense to her then to start using a cane, even at home. Another option is to have someone else on hand consistently, such as an elder care provider, even when you’re not able to be there with her.

Not every conversation is going to go perfectly, but you can do your best to make sure that you’re being fair, open, and loving during the talk.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in New Brunswick Township, NJ, please contact the caring staff at Care Street Home Care of New Brunswick today. Call (732) 607-8870.